What is a Funeral Wake? Our Guide to Hosting a Compassionate Farewell

Published on 2025-07-31 / By Lauren Robinson

When a loved one passes, arranging a farewell that feels personal, respectful, and gentle can feel overwhelming. For many, the funeral wake is an important part of saying goodbye, it’s a moment to gather, remember, and support one another in the midst of grief.

If you're not sure exactly what a wake is or how to begin planning one, this guide is here to help. From what typically happens at a funeral wake to where to host a wake in Lincolnshire, we hope to offer clarity, comfort, and reassurance at what can be a difficult time.

What is a Funeral Wake?

A funeral wake is a gathering held before or after the funeral service. It offers friends and family a chance to come together in a more relaxed setting, often with food, drinks, and space for shared memories.

Historically, wakes began as a watch over the deceased before burial, often held at home , and were rooted in both religious and cultural traditions. Over time, they have evolved into a broader expression of remembrance. Today, wakes may be religious or entirely non-religious, formal or informal, depending on the wishes of the family and the person being remembered.

At its heart, a wake is a time for connection. For many, it brings comfort to share stories, offer condolences, and simply be with others who loved the same person.

What Happens at a Wake?

There is no fixed format, and that’s part of what makes hosting a wake such a personal experience. Some are held in quiet, private rooms with tea and conversation. Others include toasts, photo displays, or music that the person would have loved.

Often, light refreshments are served. There may be a memory table, a book for guests to sign, or a slide show of photos. Some families choose to say a few words or offer a blessing. Others prefer to let the moment unfold naturally.

Religious or spiritual elements can be included if they feel right. And for non-religious families, the wake can simply be a chance to be together and reflect. However it’s shaped, the goal is the same: to create a calm, caring space where grief is acknowledged and memories are shared.

Choosing a Venue with Care

When looking for compassionate funeral venues, many families choose somewhere that feels warm and welcoming, rather than clinical or overly formal. It’s not just about convenience, it’s about setting a tone that supports reflection, comfort and care.

That’s why so many families have chosen Washingborough Hall.

Set just outside Lincoln, Washingborough Hall is a family-owned country house hotel with a gentle, thoughtful approach to hospitality. We understand that planning a funeral wake is not like planning any other event. Our team offers quiet support, attention to detail, and an ingrained respect for the emotions that come with these moments.

We provide private rooms for gatherings, peaceful surroundings, and flexible options for food and drink. Whether you’re planning something very simple or more structured, our role is to make the practical side as smooth and stress-free as possible- so you can focus on what matters.

Supporting Families Through the Process

Every wake is different, and every family has different needs. At Washingborough Hall, we listen first. Our team is here to answer questions, help you make decisions at your own pace, and gently guide you through what can be a hard day.

We can help arrange a layout that suits your group size, create a menu that feels right for the occasion, and provide a calm environment where guests feel comfortable. We’re also happy to work with your funeral director or celebrant if needed.

From parking to accessibility, from dietary needs to special requests, we aim to support you with quiet efficiency and genuine care.

When and Where to Host a Wake

Some wakes are held immediately after the funeral service, while others are planned for a different day. Either way, it can be helpful to choose a venue near the place of the service or burial, both for practical reasons and to give guests time to arrive and settle.

If you are looking for where to host a wake in Lincolnshire, Washingborough Hall is just minutes from Lincoln city centre, with ample parking and easy access. For guests coming from further afield, we also offer elegant overnight accommodation in our peaceful Georgian rooms.

The best time to host a wake is when it feels right for you and your family. There are no rules, only what feels most comforting and meaningful for your circumstances.

Enquire with Washingborough Hall

We know that planning a funeral wake is something no one wants to do, but when the time comes, it helps to have a place that understands.

If you would like to discuss holding a wake at Washingborough Hall, we invite you to get in touch. Our experienced, compassionate team will guide you through the options and help create a farewell that feels warm, respectful, and fitting.

To enquire about availability or to arrange a visit to view our private spaces, please contact us through washingboroughhall.com or speak to a member of our team directly.

Here, your loved one’s memory will be honoured with care, and your guests will be looked after with quiet kindness.